“I do not feel comfortable in public … I lack personality … I feel dull and unappealing …”

“She enters the room and her presence radiates”, “She is bright,” “She displays a good humor” … In some people emanates a particular radiation, visible on the face, visible in the look, which attracts all looks. To achieve this “enhancement of the self”, it must begin by treating their appearance and especially her posture, prevents Michele Freud. “Individuals who have confidence in themselves often have a haughty head carriage, stand upright, smile and look at others in the eye. Why not adopt this attitude? “You can think of people you admire for their ease and imitate them.

Creative visualization . Imagine yourself like a movie, in the situation where someone looks at you with admiration and wish you compliments. Then imagine that others joined him and more expensive (continue even if it bothers you). Be the spectator of this scene. Iron the movie you regularly to find all perceptions related to this image.

The inner journey . Sit comfortably and close your eyes. Let the relaxation move gradually you from head to toe, with a few deep abdominal breaths. Linger over the pleasant feeling you get from this relaxation. Now imagine a journey inside yourself. A journey where you will be able to trace the source of what you will name “radiation”. This may take the form of a cascade of light, a bonfire, hot rays of the sun, those that provide a deep sense of trust, because it is right here within your reach. Be guided by him to feel this energy around you and illuminates your entire being. Take a deep breath and connect to him even deeper. Thus, whenever you feel the need to come from you a real presence, you can simply do this breathing generating confidence.

“I cannot stand my big nose … my saddle bags … I see that my dark circles … I hate my big arms …”

This negative attention to a physical defect is, in most cases, the expression of an old pain linked to failure of magnets and confident looks worn on us by our parents, Freud explains Michele. Exercises can help to reconcile us with these songs “hated” of ourselves. But sometimes the level of dissatisfaction is as waste, would he be our chances of being happy. In this case, a dialogue with a behavioral psychologist or therapist can help us see more clearly. “With careful maintenance, they can measure the intensity of our concern, how long, how far the fault is annoying socially and psychologically,” says Jean Tignol. Which can then act “in conscience” on him. The improvement by gentle methods – creams, massages, beauty treatments – or by methods heavier: “If one is aware of the real issues of demand and it is realistic,” says the psychiatrist.

The loving gaze. The first stage of the exercise is to find a series of photos that you like. Then, on paper, make two lists: “What I Like About Me” and “What I do not like.” When sitting, back straight, set to “worthy”, consider your fault, for example your dark circles, then associate it simultaneously what you like about yourself, your eyes. Think of their color, shape, touch them (through the eyes), hear the compliments made about them, add some light. Concentrate a long time trying to feel the impact of these “remarks” benevolent … Anchor it in your memory through a gesture, for example by squeezing your thumb and forefinger. Do this four times.

Think back to your default and then, again by tightening the tip of the thumb and index finger, find the positive images. You can switch from one to another … until you stay focused on the positive. This exercise silenced the rational brain and leaves the way open to the emotional brain. Each time you are thinking to your default, simply tighten the thumb and forefinger to find positive images of you.

“I do not like my body, I cannot find it beautiful and I feel bad. I should play sports, but I cannot do it ”

Least we are in touch with our bodies, the more way we look at him is hard and “breaking up”. The result of this lack of feeling a false image that puts our physical and emotional bodies in brackets. The objective of this exercise is, according to Freud, Michele, to exchange “the body which was” against “the body that one is”: “This implies to abandon our scrutiny and malicious – your body is not a modeling clay according to our desires! – And be first aware of what we feel. ”

Mindfulness . “By restoring a form of intimacy with your body, putting you in touch with its messages and by providing all necessary care, curiously, your perception will change and your body too,” says Michele Freud. It is the practice of mindfulness. Start by feeling the shower water flowing over you, caressing and soothing. Massage in with a cream that you enjoy the texture and flavor, especially in areas that you dislike. Focus your attention on your actions, sensations and emotions.

Rooting . “A round back, arms and legs crossed give a feeling of withdrawal. The posture helps them feel better about her body and projects a positive self-image “, observes the relaxation therapist. Stand with eyes closed, jaw loose, shoulders relaxed, knees soft and barely bent, feet shoulder width apart parallel to your shoulders. The position of the back meets the natural curvature of the spine: chin, solar plexus and abdomen are aligned. Anchor yourself firmly and comfortably in this position and aware of your support. With each breath, visualize this beneficial energy that goes into your body. Each time you breathe, try to get these pleasant sensations. Get regular exercise, which lasts only five minutes, and feel this new force in you.

Dialogue with oneself . Lie down and relax. Speak these words: “How do I feel now? “With each inhale and exhale, be aware of this body who lives and vibrates … And with each new breath, measure the positive effects on you (relaxation, comfort, healing …).